I finally spoke up about a bad manager and it backfired in a way I didn't expect
Last month, my old head chef at a spot in Austin pulled me aside after a busy shift. He said, 'You're a good cook, but you'll never be a leader if you keep asking for help.' I was just trying to make sure the new guy on salads was set up right. That single comment made me freeze up and second-guess every move for weeks. Has anyone else had a boss make you feel wrong for trying to help the team?
That "you'll never be a leader" line is such a cheap shot. I read something once about how good bosses build people up, not make them scared to pitch in. Yours sounds like the opposite.